Managing Emotions

Dear Please Help, Remember, a child’s emotions must be managed for them before they can learn to manage them. As the parent/caregiver, learn your child. Be able to identify when your child is GREEN (happy, joyful, things going well), YELLOW (a little angry, a little sad, a little “yucky”) and RED (very angry, very sad, […]

Melt Downs

Dear Three Mile Island, My preemptive recommendation is to practice before arrival – talk about where you will be, what the expectations are, and identify two or three things you can do to help the child stay regulated. But, we know often that isn’t effective, as being in public can be over-stimulating, stressful, and anxiety-producing. […]


Dear Anxious About This, Transitions are where most behavioral issues occur. Transitions can cause significant anxiety because a child doesn’t know what to expect. Their brain is hard-wired for fear and mistrust; therefore, the child anticipates something bad happening to him/her. The first thing we can do to assist with anxiety is to prep – […]

Felt Safety

Dear Felt Friend, Felt safety is when the child experiences safety for themselves. It is when the child isn’t told he/she is safe, but when he/she knows and feels safe. Felt safety comes from the parent/caregiver arranging the child’s environment as well as their own behavior so children can truly know that person has the […]

Triangulation In My Community

Dear Feeling Manipulated, Educate, educate, educate! It is critical that everyone who interacts with your child be aware of the impact of trauma and how their well-meaning attempts to “help” the child can actually stunt their social and emotional development. It can get frustrating to have to educate everyone, but when we have an educated […]